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I wonder what this crazy dream you dreamed of could mean? Don’t Let It Keep You Up At Night – Our Inner Dream Analyst Layne Dalfen, author of I wish you a great dream The books, are here to help you make sense of it all. In a twice-monthly column on the Oprah’s Daily, Lynn draws on her decades of experience to explore what a dream reader is trying to tell him. Learn more about Layne’s work on her website, or by following her on Instagram.
I was playing volleyball in high school, and I was known to give a great serve. I haven’t played volleyball for over 16 years, but to this day I often dream that I’m preparing for service. I throw the ball up to hit it… and I miss. Of course, everyone around me is staring and whispering. I’ve always written it as an anxious dream, but is there a deeper meaning I might be missing?
The one thing that fascinates me about our highly developed subconscious mind is how it retains our memories and connections from birth. It’s like a database full of unique information like a fingerprint. Our dreams provide a wealth of possibilities for choosing what we want to say to ourselves, and how to say it.
By taking you to a volleyball court, the place where your ability shined, your dream might be a way to say to yourself, “I can do it!” I guess 16 years ago when you threw the ball to serve, that was what you had in mind. Now, though, you seem to be referring to some behavior or skill that you used to be “cool” at but no longer feel in the same position to perform well.
Please keep in mind, although missing out on an important moment in a sport is a very common dream, if this is a dream I keep having, this is an area I would like to investigate.
It also struck me how, in your own words, you “always crossed it out as an anxious dream.” Ask yourself: What is something you used to be good at but no longer feel capable or confident at that makes you anxious? If you have some resistance to admitting your fears, that’s exactly what might generate a dream like this! In this case, the goal of your dream will be to show these feelings in public.
To help you relate this dream to a specific event in your life, let’s add another layer to the questions to ask yourself. Besides looking for a recent situation in which you feel anxious and less efficient than you remember, consider the element of judgment suggested by the feeling that everyone is “staring and whispering.”
Looking at the general topic, this looks like a discussion about expectation. Have you recently set out to do something you used to be good at, and find that you are no longer talented at it? This usually leads to judging yourself and imagining the dissatisfaction of others. Disappointment, self-evaluation, and imagined criticism from others are all worrisome.
Change is inevitable for all of us. The way we manage ourselves through these changes is more important than the ways in which some of our abilities may fade over time. The key is to tap again into the same great potential that you still have inside of you – this time by accepting change without judgment! For example, it might be a good time to figuratively throw the ball to others, if desired. Are you comfortable asking for help?
Finally, using word play, this dream indicates “service”. What comes to mind when you think of service? Can you use the term figuratively? Do you feel that you are “serving” the people in your life? Moreover, are you someone who is usually accommodating, to the point that people expect you to say yes to any request? If that hits a mark for you, have you recently rejected someone when they asked for something from you?
If you are I did Turning down a recent request, he might explain how and why you say, “Everyone around me is staring and whispering.” Have your recent actions made you feel exposed or valued in some way?
However, the word “service” can have many associations, so let’s not get stuck there. How about presenting an idea, like the last situation you “presented” an idea in a meeting? Have others seen your idea of diving instead of flying?
All of the possibilities I’ve outlined here illustrate completely different solutions. In the first scenario where you feel less able, the solution would be to send the ball to others, or bypass worrying about judgments and ask for help hitting it over the net.
In the second possible analysis of this dream, “serving” others is not really the goal. While those around you may be surprised at first, when you exercise your right to say “no,” people’s ideas about what to expect of you will change…in which case, “loss of transmission” is a good thing.
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